Life serves up all kinds of trouble and happiness. If we don’t watch it, the troubles and failures may create an unhealthy identity.
Why is it that we get stuck focusing on the traumatic times rather than the happy moments?
The toughest thoughts to get rid of (and, sometimes, the ones I listen to most) are the ones I need to eject–forever. Our thoughts inform our identity.
In the first draft of this post, I made a list of some unhelpful thoughts I listen to way too often. I decided it’s more helpful to come up with three steps to transform our thinking:
- Reject the thoughts that are not true
- Focus on the positive
- Memorize scripture about identity (who God says I am)
Reject false thinking
Here’s a helpful acronym to change your thinking. THINK, about your self-talk:
Often attributed to thinking before speaking to others, if we stop long enough to THINK about these five questions, our self-talk will change.
Find inspiration in books, podcasts, and scripture. Sometimes it helps to write down positive thoughts and prominent spots. One example is this is what I drew on a canvas, which reminds me I’m valuable to God.
Focus on the positive
It’s been said that it takes 10 positive statements to counteract one negative comment. I wish that weren’t the case, but in my experience, this bears true.
At a former place of employment, I printed positive emails from our clientele and created a wall of affirmation. Glancing at the highlighted positive words could change the day.
Memorize scripture about identity
A women’s bible study I attended many years ago focused on the importance of scripture memorization. Our leader provided index cards weekly for us to write down a verse and commit it to memory. Then we would recite it together the following week. The best thing about memorizing scripture is how God brings it to mind when we need it most.
To close this post, I’m including a list of affirming scriptures about who God says I am. Read, study, rewrite, post, and memorize these to embrace your true identity.
You’ll be glad you did.
I am a child of God. John 1:12
I am a friend of Jesus. John 15:15
I have been accepted by Christ. Romans 15:7
My body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who dwells in me. 1 Corinthians 3:16; 1 Corinthians 6:19
I am a new creature in Christ. 2 Corinthians 5:17
I have been set free in Christ. Galatians 5:1
I am redeemed and forgiven by the grace of Christ. Ephesians 1:7
The peace of God guards my heart and mind. Philippians 4:7
God loves me and has chosen me. 1 Thessalonians 1:4